My Husband told me he's Having an Affair ... and I'm eight months pregnant!
Hi Scott,
I’m not sure if this is the right way to reach you – but my husband of 12 years just told me he’s having an affair. I’m eight months pregnant. We also have a two-year-old and a five-year-old. I’m still in shock. But here’s the strange thing: I’m not panicking about money. We’ve followed your steps religiously. We have solid Mojo, index funds, a modest home that we’ve paid 25% off in 18 months.
So while I’m heartbroken and terrified about what’s ahead, I’m also deeply grateful. Because of you, “how will I survive financially?” isn’t the first question I’m asking. But now I need to start asking the right ones. How do I protect our financial position through separation? Should I slow down mortgage payments to preserve cash flow? What’s the smartest way to divide the assets we’ve worked so hard to build?Anna
Anna,
I’m so sorry you’re in this situation.
You’re not the first woman this has happened to, but because of your hard work and financial smarts, you have put yourself in a powerful position. And that means you don’t have to stay in a relationship with someone who betrayed your trust.
Now isn’t the time for big financial changes – not until you’ve spoken to a lawyer and have a clear path forward. So, for the next few months, just keep things steady.
Here’s what I do want you to do this week:First, gather every bit of financial info you can – bank accounts, investments, super, mortgage, house title. Take photos of everything.
Second, call your bestie -- you need someone in your corner.
Third, book in with a family lawyer. They’ll explain your rights and help you map out what comes next.
And then?
Do what you’ve already been doing brilliantly: be a calm, powerful force for your kidsBecause one day -- when they’re old enough to understand -- they’ll know how strong their mum was.
That she stood tall when life fell apart. That she protected them with everything she had.And that’s a legacy worth living.
You’ve got this Anna.Scott