Our Kids Don’t Know How Broke We Are

Hi Scott,

My family is in a highly stressful situation. Currently our children all go to private schools that cost us a combined $35,000 a year, yet we are struggling because I am the only one working, as my husband has been out of work for over six months. I can’t tell my children that they will need to leave their school because we can’t afford it! However, we have absolutely no money to spare. We are desperate. We have paid for the first term, but the new bill will be issued in April. We are extremely stressed. What can we do?

Pari

Hi Pari,

Oh boy, what a stressful situation.

It’s all wrapped up in the emotions of guilt and shame and the desire to provide for your kids.

So the make-or-break factor is your husband getting work … any work, even if it’s not in his area of expertise. You just need money coming in the door.

And you’re not the first parents who have been in this situation. The key with all creditors is communication: let the school know what’s going on and ask for their help.

Yet you’ve probably already tried that.

So here’s another way to think about it.

Politicians often say you should never waste a good crisis – and it’s actually good advice. Pari, you’re in a crisis right now, so it’s a good idea to put everything on the table and look at your options.

And the bottom line is this: if you can’t afford it … you can’t afford it.

Putting your kids into a decent public school won’t damage them. In fact, if they’re old enough, talking to them straight about the realities of your financial situation could be one of the great learning lessons of their life.

Scott.